We have all been through so much - these past few years. I personally keep starting and stopping. Not sure of where to go or what to say. I am trying to figure it out.
However, I sense an urgency from those around me. An urgency to hold tightly to everything, to control all outcomes, to not be left confused and alone - ever again. In our rush to get back to normal, we have forgotten that part of this journey is to allow healing to take place and that often comes in the form of the very solitude we fear.. We all lost - over these past few years. But perhaps - if we acknowledge what we lost, we should also acknowledge what we gained. Many of us re-connected to our families. Many of us found work-life balance for the 1st time in our careers - and we liked it! Many of us learned new skills and took risks to begin new life paths. To be sure…no one is the same.
But as I said previously..change is never experienced as a straight line.
Perhaps the thing we have all gained over the past few years is honesty. After all, when it all stripped away, honesty is all that is left. So, let’s be honest. We lost - yes. But we are still able to look forward and find a place to start. We may stop. Again. And we will start again. In the meantime, let’s do what we know we have needed to for so long. Let’s not avoid the tough conversations. Let’s help our kids and ourselves by acknowledging our needs, our strengths, and our limitations. Let’s not cling so tightly that it destroys us to lose control. Let’s loosen our grip and allow the space to strengthen us. In all honesty, this space is where we truly belong. Allow for the uncertainty - embrace it. Often the most wonderful, creative things happen when we are adapting and opening ourselves to all of the possibilities.
Strength is in adaptability - which is indeed, a curious thing.